The Purpose  of   HEALING - K.i.s.s.
as stated 12 years ago - was and is
to help me and my potential PEERS
to HEAL ourselves into WHOLEness,
and - as holograms - all of Creation!
Intro to Healing-K.i.s.s. 2001-2013
and Overview of its main libraries


[If you look for a word on this page,
click ctrl/F and put a word in "find"]

I focus my experiencing and awareness on being
"a   pioneer of  Evolution  in  learning  to  feel":
I let my Body vibrate and my Heart 'womb'

pain, shame, fear, boredom, powerlessness,
so feelings can >heal >guide>fulfill
>evolve,
and ~~~ offer ~~~"goldmines"~~~ to us all!!
"I want you to feel everything, every little thing!"

 


See below: December 7-11, 2010
Closeups to my Past, Finetuning to my Present, Nourishment for my Living
- which enhance and enrich my experience of "Mika's Heaven on Earth"



Click! and click again to stop! And if you want to do yourself a favor, join in! Sing!
May my throat's overtone singing today - unite all my denied parts and lost fragments with me - today!



2005 LEARNING & LIVING TODAY
{10 - 2005_05_15}
"Learning to feel better requires that you become better at feeling"

 

 

"... eternally safe to be and to play..."
"Manifestation is meant to be a playground
where being and doing are fun..."

From Interview with 'the Folks', Part Two


 

"In the Mother's paradigm of free will for all beings,
parentalness [see pp12: "The Goal-to Become Parental and Whole"] is no longer necessary.
In the realization of the Mother's dream,
Heart is king and queen,
and eternally safe to be and to play~~~
without fear of reversal.
Parentalness is necessary only now,
while there is still so much to heal."

 



  In my hot sulphor-pond
at the Dead Sea
May 2005
with Diana




 

Okay Folks, thank you.
You mentioned earlier that desire is the essence of Will.
What else can you tell us about this?


"Emotions are expressions of desire,
and in the case of 'negative' emotions,
the expression of the denial of desire. "


"Deep under every denied emotion
is a desire that was denied first.
...
All pain is a result of
desire's natural drawing power being thwarted by denial."

...

  [for instance:
I feel the pressure of "too many things in my life",
not only things to do, even things I thoroughly enjoy,
but too many material things,
for instance, clothes that are given to me.
Or even the CDs with music, that Diana offered to me.

I experience this pressure as something "negative", i.e. as something I don't want.
Being aware of what I don't want,
accepting the feeling, breathing and moving the feeling,
brings up the understanding - in this case .... -
that I can get rid of some [not all] specific exterior causes of my pressure.

"Pressure" then is "the expression of the denial of desire!"
But what IS the desire underneath!
Is it only to be pressure-free, i.e. painfree?
How does the desire to be free of pain relate to desires that manifest something?

I don't get it....Please help!]

 

The Original Denial of Desire

...

"Before anything happened in manifestation,
the Mother was a unified field of indrawing, pulsating magnetic essence.
She didn't 'know' anything about herself,
because she had only sentient awareness.
But she could feel herself,
and she enjoyed her pulsating
because she sensed it as desire to draw something to her,
even though she didn't know exactly what it would be.
Without the presence of consciousness,
she instinctively sensed that whatever it was,
it would in some way
complete her and satisfy her desire
.

 

"Suddenly, she felt something coming toward her,
and with rising joy she opened to receive it.
Her joy quickly turned to pain
when instead of her desire being fulfilled as she'd expected,
she received a terrible blow of denial energy
that hurt her deeply.
Stunned and in shock, she closed herself~~~
....
...

"From one unified field of pulsating, enticing cosmic desire
opening to receive its completion and fulfillment,
the Will of Creation became split into three fundamental fragments.

The singular, core desire is the desire for loving union.
Three fragments of the previously unified magnetic desire essence
resulted from the repeated attacks of denial energy~~~
the desire for the freedom to have and do what she wants and not what she doesn't,

the desire for the peace of security from attack,

and her primary desire, the desire for loving union with Light.

.....

"Yes, the core of all desire
is the Mother's desire for ecstatic union with loving Light.
The fulfillment of this desire without denial begets New Heart~~~
and loving manifestations.
The ongoing opening of this desire
and the willing fulfillment of it
with the unconditional acceptance of loving Light
brings the end of suffering,
the wholeness of Will and therefore being,
and the realization of the Mother's dream.

SEA SONG
[around my bus above the Sea,
lyrics and tune: June 1988,
after the removal of my womb
I kept asking my old question:
What should I do?]


Jede Faser meines Wesens,
jeder Atem ein und aus
Muskeln, Zellen, Kapillaren,
alle wissen um dies Eine,
dass ich wirken will im Leben
||: aus den Kraeften meiner Liebe:||

Jeder Stern im Universum,
jeder Augenblick der Zeit,
alle Wellen dieses Meeres
warten, harren auf dies Eine ,
dass da wirken jetzt im Leben
||: alle Kraefte meiner Liebe:||

Meiner Seele stetes Sehnen,
jede Regung meines Geists,
all mein Spueren, Hoeren, Sehen,
wandeln stroemend sich in Eines,
in das Wirken meines Lebens
||: aus den Kraeften meiner Liebe:||

Euch Geschoepfen und Euch Schoepfern,
Menschen, Erden dieser Welt,
Euch den Nahen, Euch den Fernen
sag ich "Danke" fuer dies Eine,
dass Ihr wirken lasst im Leben
||: jetzt die Kraefte meiner Liebe:||

Dedicated to Diana
after some hours of "TRAINING DREAMERS"
in and between the Dead Sea
and my hot Sulphur Spring.

Listen to the song in SongGame 2007

I can't help hinting at the general exterior situation
I am part of
:
from www.ariga.com , Today's Situation News [ of Israel] ,
Friday, May 13, 2005 "... in Yedioth Ahronoth, Ofer Shelach
gets outgoing commander Gadi Eisencott on the record as saying
that there are ‘zero’ terror alerts this week in the West Bank.
Eisencott says it has become ‘a conditioned reflex’ to say
that there will be another round of violence
and indicates that it is in Israel’s power to do whatever it can
to prevent that from happening,
by offering hope to the other side.
‘I can only say
that those who don’t see a light
at the end of the tunnel
will hurry to light a fire,’
he told Yedioth."

www.ariga.com
advertises a video about the Israel-Palestine Conflict.
As to the political "solution" - two states living side by side -
I've been working for this already before the 1967 war.
But a real solution will come about,
when the nations around the Dead Sea will realize
their biggest common interest: Economy in the Deserts.

"webshot" photo on May 16: A new perspective.
I'll use it from now on as a frame to the logo image of "Learn&Live"!



Listen to the song in SongGame 2007


May14, 2005, with Diana and Yisrael:
A day of play in the Dead Sea and in my hot Sulphur Spring
and along the little rivulet I take great pain to maintain,
whenever I hitchhike there on Shabbat, to give energy to my vision

2010_12_11-The vision may have manifested in another dimension,
and this pond and rivulet no longer exist, since the Sea water level has sunk 5 meters since then.
But people created a new water basin further down, and the water flows from it without maintenance


Healing Desire

Okay Folks, thank you.
How do you suggest we work with desire by way of healing?

"Every imprint has denied desire at its core.

The healing begins
when you have released enough denial energy
and brought enough acceptance to an emotion
that you can feel the desire under it.



Ask Us
to help you feel under the emotional energy~~~
to the denied desire that is beneath it.
As with emotions,
first release the denial energy that has twisted the desire.


"When you can feel the unfulfilled desire
begin to move,
bring your loving acceptance to it.
You are then loving your desire just as it is,
unfulfilled edginess and all.



"As you bring unconditional acceptance
to your unfulfilled desire on the personal level,
on the transpersonal level
Spirit is bringing his loving Light
to the part of the Mother
whose desire was originally rejected.

[The "imprint" I experience about every five minutes
of my present "40 days time out",
is,
"You should be doing something!"
or "You should be doing something more important!"
The whip that strikes down, is so merciless,
that my mind comes up with imaginations like:
If someone would come now , needing my help,
nobody would accuse me of having wasted those hours.
Which means, that the imprint works through someone,
who constantly accuses me.
There was, of course, my mother and her cynical:
"Arbeiten ist schoen, ich koennte stundenlang zusehn!"
["How nice to see you work, I could watch you for hours!"],
whenever I took a breath of working like mad,
but when I was around 20, even she said:
"If you go on working like that,
at the age of 40 you won't be able to do anything anymore at all."

It was my "vocation", my "calling", my "mission" ,
which tyrannized me by day and by night, hour after hour, minute after minute.

After all these years of healing myself, and of slowly but surely learning
how not to succumb to the pressure of my vocation,
at least on the practical level,
there is still this "phantom" whip..

So what IS my desire for myself,
underneath all the desires for other humans and Creation?
To feel fulfilled without needing to do anything?
But isn't "playing" , as my grandkids play, "natural",
and "the intention for Manifestation"?
I am so infested with that "Do,Do,Do" imprint, that I don't even want to play.
I just want to feel alive and fulfilled without doing anything , anything at all!]

"As you feel into your desire,
drop down to its deepest layer~~~
the desire to be loved.
Your Spirit essence is now loving your Will's deepest desire,
and in doing so the desire becomes activated.
Activated desire is the most powerful drawing force in Creation.
It brings you what you want.
This is the root cause of manifestation~~~
desire activated by loving Light manifests what is desired.

The key is
in fully feeling and loving your desire just as it is in the moment, unfulfilled."

 

...
Finding the Will to heal is the first priority in desire fulfillment.

 

"When the Mother's core desires are activated with loving acceptance,
healing happens.
When the Mother's essence is whole in you,
parentalness is no longer needed.
All the nonparental desires can then find their loving fulfillment.
Manifestation is meant to be a playground
where being and doing are fun,

not like it is now for most humans~~~
a prison where it's believed forced labor is required for survival.
The fulfillment of all desire,
both parental and nonparental
is the foundation of the Mother's core parental desire,
the realization of her dream."

 

 

 

The shore-line beneath my cave after sunset [as it was in 2005. Now in December 2010 it is not the same]



December 7-11, 2010
Closeups to my Past, Finetuning to my Present, Nourishment for my Living
- which enhance and enrich my experience of "Mika's Heaven on Earth"

 

Arad, Tuesday December 7, 2010,
Aftermath of
the Carmel-Chanuka-Fire

Wikipedia: 2010 Mount Carmel forest fire, English Edition, reports:

"Netanyahu said he had a “warm” discussion with Palestinian Authority President Mahmoud Abbas,
who offered any assistance he could to help Israel with the fire,
even though the U.S. is trying to restart peace talks between the Israelis and Palestinians
that broke down in September over the issue of construction West Bank settlements.
The Palestinian Authority sent several fire trucks to help extinguish fires near the Israeli-Arab towns of Tayibe and Barta'a;
on Sunday, December 5, 21 Palestinian firefighters joined the efforts in the Carmel Forest area itself.
senior Palestinian Authority security official Ahmed Rizek Abu Rabia[who?] said:
"This is a human catastrophe. The Palestinian side is offering all the help it can through official channels."
[I wanted to quote only this passage and NOT quote other passages about reactons to the fire from Arab spokesmen.

And as to the reacton of Hamas.... , what can I say, if a former Chief Rabbi of Israel claims, that the fire is a punishment for not keeping Shabbat...


See the original lyrics of the song, which was born out of the Fire, and listen there to the tune of both

the original song



and the modified song

and listen here to my final edition of "Sing Peace"
(see composition on November 24, 2010)



On Dec. 7, 2010, I modified mainly the third stanza of "SingPeace"
and omitted the last one, which in the original follows an instrumental section

It took me an unbelievable amount of time to learn this song and then to edit it in a way,
that it would be singable for non-professionals without an orchestra
This song is also integrated in the page of the 4-languages "Partnership-Hymn"

 

I'm continuing to insert two documents about my Partnership Work between November 1974 and December 1980
Background in English to the 6 years of this Work can be seen in the Library : My Life's Harvest >Israel and Ismael

"Partnership Diary", 1977, 102b-c
The first insert of this doc can be found in Learn&Live 7, the last in Closeup to my Past

 

"Liberty through Responsibility", 1975, page 24b
The first insert of this document can be found in Learn&Live 6, the last one in Closeup to my Past


"Partnership Diary", 1977, 102c-104a

"Liberty through Responsibility", 1975, page 25



"Partnership Diary", 1977, 104b-105-106

"Liberty through Responsibility", 1975, page 26


"Partnership Diary", 1977, 106b-107

"Liberty through Responsibility", 1975, page 26b-27a


Busses of the
Prison Authorities:
Were these photographed
after the terrible deaths
of the police cadets
who were supposed to "evacuate"
the 500 "illegal residents"?

A group email from the Israeli Society for the Protection of Nature:
an image
[right] before and and an image [left] after the Fire,
They also point out the new concept, that

"the rehabilitation of the Carmel must lean on the capacity of Nature to renew itself,
which is based on the seed-bank in its soil, and NOT on initiated plantings."


"Partnership Diary", 1977, 107b

"Liberty through Responsibility", 1975, page 27b-28a

[continuation of both documents in Closeup to my Past 2007]
A page in my personal diary, Oct. 1978, exemplifies, how painful my living day by day was:
and this though two months earlier I had come back - greatly empowered-
from two workshops in Re-evaluation Counseling in England


December 11, 2010: At least this has truly changed in my live and living:
I'm no longer plagued by the feeling, that what I'm doing, is not enough,
and that "I should be doing something more important!"



WETTERBERICHT
(excerpts from the last weather-report see Learn&Live 6>Nov. 25)

"Diese Rubrik beschreibt in kurzen Worten "Wellen" und "Strömungen" von Energien, die auf die Erde und unserere Bewusstseinsfelder treffen,
die uns beeinflussen und unser Wachstum unterstützen
und hauptsächlich aus der geistigen Welt kommen.
Aber auch "Wellen" der Negativität und allgemeine Umwälzungen, soweit bekannt, werden im Wetterbericht mit aufgenommen.."

Wetterbericht für die Zeit vom 1.12.2010-29.12. 2010
Maitreya durch Julia Schuricht

excerpted on December 10,2010; restudied with feelings of powerlessness on Dec.23

.......


Seid Ihr bereit, zu sehen, dass alles in euch enthalten ist?
Dass es ein JA war zu diesem Spiel?
Dass Ihr mit einem Atemzug,
in dem ihr Licht und Dunkel befreit von ihrer Trennung,
von diesem Spiel erlöst seid?
...
Ihr habt nun die wahrhaftige Gelegenheit-
nichts mehr auszuschließen in der Annahme all Euren Seins.

Ihr seid die Engel und Meister-und ihr seid die „Bösewichter“ und Dämonen.
Könnt ihr euer Herz so weit ausdehnen, um dies anzunehmen?
Wenn ja, ist dies eine Gelegenheit zur Befreiung in einem Ausmaß,
das euch direkt durch den Spiegel bringen wird.
Wenn nicht,

-werdet  ihr diesen Monat  als   sehr   chaotisch   empfinden.

V e r w i r r e n d    u n d   n e b u l ö s.


Was ihr ausgrenzt aus Eurer Annahme des

„was bin ich“

und der Behauptung

„DAS bin ich nicht“,

kann sich nicht in euch erlösen.

K a n n    n i c h t    h e i l e n ,

.....

Das zweite Tor , das zweite Reich ist das Reich der Naturwesen und Elfen,
der Einhörner [the unicorns] und Fabelwesen-das Reich der Naturmagie,



After Mika's cherished crystal-ball - with a unicorn only in the relief on its base - was broken,,
I told Efrat, on the phone, to buy her a crystal-ball with a unicorn inside the ball itself.


das seine Trennung von eurem Reich erfuhr zu eben jener atlantischen Zeit,
in der sich Licht und Dunkel auf gewaltsame Art trennten.

Es lag lange Zeit neben dem euren.
In Reichweite - greifbar und doch so weit entfernt.
Getrennt durch den Abgrund der Illusion um euch herum - und in euch.
Es öffnet sich am 12.12. auf kollektiver Ebene
und erlaubt euch, die Magie und den Zauber... im Alltag zu erleben.
Es erlaubt euch eine neue Verbindung mit diesen Reichen auf Zellebene.

Wenn ihr dies wählt!

......
All dies erlebt ihr, wenn ihr das Auge des Sturms werdet.
Denn wie ein Sturm tanzen die Energien in diesem Monat
und wirbeln alles auf, vermischen sich, tanzen-
lassen keine Unterscheidung zwischen den Polen mehr erkennen-

und tragen Euch davon, wenn ihr euch nicht fest in Eurem Zentrum verankert.
Und so werdet ihr Teil des Sturms
-oder ihr werdet Teil der Ruhe im Zentrum,
die den Sturm begrüßt und in der Stille eine Kerze entzündet.
Kehrt ein.
Werdet still.
Und vollkommen neu.


In diesem Monat wird das göttliche Feuer der Wut in euch entzündet,
das es manchmal braucht, um allzu starre Bindungen zu verbrennen.
Das jene magischen Bindungen lösen wird in euch-
Das magische Feuer göttlicher Wut
wird an einigen Tagen wie ein großer Flächenbrand in euch lodern
und ihr werdet spüren,
dass es euch nicht verbrennt-
sondern erneuert.
[will it renew me????]
Auf die Wut folgt die Gnade- und die Dankbarkeit-
und Tränen, die ihr zum allerersten Mal weint.
Weil ihr neu werdet.
Gereinigt.
Euch umdreht und in die Freiheit geht.
Wenn ihr dies wählt!
....
Seid Ihr bereit für die Alchemie des Wunders des Lebens in euch?
Bereit, die Magie der Natur in euch erneut zu erleben?


Shoham, December 10, 2010 - Musings in between being with Efrat and Mika
[2011_01_06 -
In hindsight I know, that the difficult feelings on this and the following day
before December 12, 2010 -
prepared me for what I may call
my DENIAL-LESSON]


Matreya's/Julia's "Weather Report" seems to talk to me directly,
to me as the individuum Christa-Rachel Bat-Adam
and to me, the people of the State of Israel


Indeed, ever since the Carmel-Chanuka-Fire, and perhaps even before,
I am not enjoying my usual inner oneness, peacefulness and even joy.
I shall "perceive this month as very chaotic, confusing and nebulous",
unless I grasp the opportunity of cosmic changes
("farewell to Atlantis and its duality of good and evil")
and accept that - (translating Maitreya into Godchannel language:)
I am everything, light and darkness,
meaning that I am also the perpetrator, also the victim,
and in the case of the FIRE,
which Matreya mentions as a metaphor,
and which we have gone through in front of the World's eyes,
I am the Israeli government and authorities,
which have fighter aeroplanes , that
[at least when I explored this in the seventies]
equal in prize the annual budget of the Ministry of Education,
but don't have one little plane, that can be present above a forest fire within minutes.
And I am the Israeli government and authorities,
which believe, that "non-legal residents" should be put in prison,
and that even in the case of a fire,
when they together with the prison staff need to be evacuated
we cannot let them free, like we let free the animals in the Wild Zoo.

All this is me: the beliefs and the fears
...

 

I re-studied the quote from Abraham in Learn&Live 6>Nov. 25:
Much of my distress has to do with either the behavior of other people,
- the way that two of my three families succumb to the dictations of some of their children-
or with the lack of zest-full-ness and full-fill-ment ["boredom"] of most people.
Still, what Abraham says, resonates with me

See in Bio-Testimony 1 > 2010, June 5-10,
"The Servant's" task is not to "suffer vicariously",
but to vicariously take on his people's and all peoples' denied feelings
of guilt and unworthiness

[and - I'm adding today - of lack of zest-full-ness and full-fillment]
and thus to "detoxicate" them!
If Moses' greatest yearning was/is:
"Who would give that all the Lord's people were prophets!" Numeri 11
he desires, that each one's personal ego identity
will be integrated in each one's Cosmic Identity
And from the perspective of my Cosmic Identity
I am the perpetrator and the victim,
but I am now meant to be the Healer!

 

Shoham, Shabbat, 2010_12_11 from the Godchannel quotes above:
"The healing begins
when you have released enough denial energy
and brought enough acceptance to an emotion
that you can feel the desire under it.....
When you can feel the unfulfilled desire begin to move,
bring your loving acceptance to it.
You are then loving your desire just as it is,
unfulfilled edginess and all."

I still don't understand this connection between denial and desire.
All I know and all I try to pound into my consciousness on this day, is,
that there is only one assignment, i.e. only one way to "feel good",
and this is -from moment to moment -to breathe and blink every feeling,
be it an identifiable emotion or not,
be it part of a crowd of mixed or nebulous feelings or single and clear.

This also implies:
whenever my mind rushes towards the future,
- be this future even just this Shabbat from morning to night -
and there is fear of either "expectations" or "lack of intensity",
I must ask my consciousness to help me focus on this moment
and decide, yes decide!
to recognize life and therefore joy
in this, this feeling!

Matreya/Julia are right that I have to unite good and bad in myself,
but I can do this only, if I first unite Will with Spirit, feeling with consciousness.
And this is not something that I can do "once and forever",
I have to do this "Unification" with every breath and blink!
(Augen-Blick- eye-blink - in German means "moment")

This is the real challenge of a life in body on Earth!
And remember my singsong:
you will never get it done, nor can you ever get it wrong,

A bit later - in between playing with Mika on this Shabbat, 2010_12_11:
Perhaps my unfulfilled desire is for "zest and full-fill-ment"?
But I never never never denied it!
I only was ignorant of what would provide me with zest and full-fill-ment
Perhaps I can re-phrase my desire:
I want to extract zest and full-fill-ment from every feeling in every moment,
and thus also be in control of balancing what I attract into my exterior life:
the amount of expectations from others and the amount of intensity I need.

[I did not take into account the situation of Body's sickness- as on Dec.22:
when there is sheer survival, desire for death, NO acceptance of feelings]

It is amazing, how the metaphors of Matreya/Julia are played out physically!
After the conflagraton that blotted out 5000 hectar of forest and some 20 houses,
we now (since 12 hours) have an enormous storm chasing through tiles and streets.


Shabbat, 2010_12_11,
12:19

[January 6, 2011: I'm following the thread of occurences and feelings,
and detect how the "change" on Dec. 21, had long been preparing itself.
In all these exactly 4 years of my assignment with Efrat and Mika
I had become used to my "understanding" , that I could not "move" my feelings,
nor could I demand from Efrat, to move HER feeling -
according to the rules of "Mutual Support"
[Re-evaluation Counseling].
Obviously my HIgher Self, the director of my drama, said: enough is enough.
But on this day I re-acted, as I so often had re-acted:
I controlled myself and worked "it" out on the inside.
Or so I believed....

I tried to sleep a bit,
Mika came in and made noise with her cuttings at her desk.
She did not relate to me -
I asked her, to at least put back her hair circlet on her head,

so that I wouldn't need to see her hair fluttering in front of her face all the time.
She did not react.
I discerned feelings at once:
I'm hurt, that she ignores my wish.
I'm expected to not let her get away with ignoring another person , but "educate" her.
My physical
nerves are irritated by the cutting noise.
I'm afraid to ask her and bring me my ear-plugs, since she might ignore and reject me again.
But the strongest feeling is, that she or her mother might expect from me,
that I occupy myself with her, so she won't get bored, BUT MIKA WANTS TO BE ALONE..
And also: I miss being part of her creativity.

I had just completed sculpting this passage, when Mika returned - warm and cooperative...
At one stage she came with 2 waffles for herself and 1 for me. "Why aren't we equal?" I asked.
"Because Imma loves me!" I continued with humor: "And me she doesn't love?" Silence.
After about 2 minutes:"because I enjoy it more!", but she wasn't satisfied with her answer.
Since she also had another feeling: wanting another waffle, she combined guilt and greed:
"Imma, can you give a second waffle to Savta?" -
When she came to me, she handed me half of it!



From Gabriel Vieira, a very good friend during "The Walk about Love 2009"

My year in Gaia , December 8, 2010


How much do I, Rachel, envy this generation
for having such opportunities to learn and grow!

Gabriel writes on Facebook:
I've just finished my first year in Gaia University.
A lot has happened, and I have learned so much.
As my final output of the year, I wrote a review of all my years learnings.
Id love it if you'd like to read it and tell me what you think,
whether you have any questions, etc.
If you havent seen or heard from me in a while,
this would be a great way to catch up a bit on whats going on in my life.
I hope you enjoy it!

Learning Review 2010
My year’s learnings in Soul, Sustenance, and Society

How Have I Grown in 2010?

I am writing this story at Earthaven Ecovillage in North Carolina, mostly in the beautiful yurt in which I am living. This space is deeply nourishing to me, a womb that I have been able to fill with my soul. All around me, fall is turning into winter. The bright, cold sky and leaves crunching underfoot are the perfect atmosphere for reflection. I am blessed.

Before you begin reading the story of my year, take a moment to imagine yourself here with me. The round, white walls of the yurt surround you, soft morning light filtering in from the skylight at the top. We lie on cushions next to the woodstove, where a hearty fire crackles. The altar table is set with candles, sage, flowers, and pinecones. There is a small village of colorful wooden blocks on the floor. The light is dim, just firelight and a little bit of sunlight. When we're ready, we step out the front door, into a blast of clear, cold air. The sky is blue, almost cloudless. It feels like you can see forever in such a clear sky. The trees have shed most of their leaves, and they sway in the cold wind. The wind is invigorating, enlivening.
We walk briskly around the land, greeting the community of trees, animals, and human people. We are welcome here. Welcome!



Chapter 1: Inspiration and Design

Soul- During this period, I was inspired to be an action learner and a world changer, and to design my learning pathway. Both my Permaculture Design Course (PDC) and my Gaia University Orientation empowered and inspired me to create my life as a learning experience and to transform the culture around me. Due to a very difficult and confusing experience with my partner at the time, Alissa Joy, I was challenged in my ability to be in integrity in relationship, and to love deeply and honestly. There were times when she would ask me how I felt, or what I wanted and needed, and I would look inside myself and be unable to find an answer. This was troubling for me, because it made me feel like I was hiding something from myself out of fear. This challenge initiated a period of very deep self-reflection that would eventually bring deep learnings about myself as a lover. I also learned the fundamentals of
Re-evaluation Counseling (RC), a powerful practice for healing emotional trauma. [Rachel: Re-evaluation Cousenling is much much more than healing the past!!] In the RC fundamentals course taught by Andrew Langford and Liora Adler, I began to work with my own trauma around middle school sexual embarrassment, my father's long work days when I was a child, and many other issues. The practice of RC has been very useful for me since and frees me to be more loving and joyful.

Society- During the PDC and my Gaia orientation, I learned models and theories that have helped me to design my learning pathway and my relationships.....

Sustenance- The design skills I learned in the PDC and Gaia orientation are invaluable in almost any work environment. The process of clarifying goals, analyzing the site, designing the project, implementing it, and evaluating the process powerfully increases my capacity to be effective in any project work. It is also a valuable skill for living in community, because it allows me to help bring people together around common goals, and ground those goals in a realistic assessment of what is available. The practice of permaculture also provides opportunities for sustenance, including the possibilities of homesteading or permaculture design work as well as teaching.

Chapter 2: Connection and Canvassing

... Soul: In this time, I let go of a relationship that I had been holding very close, which was very painful. Me and Alissa Joy had been connecting deeply and intimately since Camp Winnarain-bow the summer before. Though we loved each other very much, we both needed very different kinds of relationships, and it seemed that those two different needs could not be reconciled. I had hoped that we could transition gracefully towards friendship, however she expressed that she needed space and wanted to not be in contact for a while. After that conversation, I made a conscious effort to let go of her and of my expectations for that relationship. I learned to experience and accept the pain of letting go, and how to adjust and carry on with my life.
I also learned a lot from canvassing about my fears around rejection and my reluctance to really ask for what I wanted. Canvassing forced me to ask strangers for something all day long for days, and to approach people I wouldn't usually approach.... [continuation in Learn&Live 11]

 


 

Continuation of Shabbat, 2010_12_11:
We played together for a while,
but then came a scene that brought up truly terrible feelings,
and much rage and pain and tears (while hidden under my blanket)
Already in the morning,
when Mika woke me up and started to busy herself at our chest-desk,
I asked her - as I told above -to put her circlet on her hair.
I even brought it to her.
She took it off again and again.
I suggested other devices to keep the hair off her face.
She refused or didn't react.
Finally I said (using a language she could understand:
"If two people have two opposing desires,
they must make 1+1=3.
i.e. find a solution which is greater than the desires of both."


She left the room, and when I came after her,
she said to her mother in the kitchen:
"I don't want Savta to be here".
Imma: "Then tell her so!"
I intervened and told about the circlet.
And what did my daughter-in-love tell me?
"Yes she came in the morning
and said, that you didn't want her to be in your room,
unless she would put a circlet on her head,
and I said to her:
"Do what is convenient for you!"

I tried to win over Efrat to my principle:
that Mika should not be allowed to override me.
"but it disturbs her to have anything in her hair,
it's enough that she can't leave her hair loose in kindergarden."


"I understand that, but what about me, who is disturbed too!"
At first Efrat wanted to push away my feeling of being disturbed,
as unjustified.
I said:
"Even if my feeling is unjustified in your eyes,
it's still my feeling and you cannot override it."

So she did something quick with Mika's hair, which gathered it somehow.
But the story now had gone beyond that,
because I saw, that she had simply succumbed to me.
I said:
"And why did you believe her,
when she said, she couldn't be in my room, unless..?"

"I didn't really believe her."
"But if she hears your reaction:
"Do what is convenient for you!"
then ...

I didn't finish the sentence,
instead returned to my room, closed it and raged and cried.



There,
I've learnt through 40 years of my life
not to victimize myself to anyone.
And how then did I create a situation,
in which my daughter-in-love supports my granddaughter
in overriding me?
It's not a matter of Ego!
It would be really so much more convenient for me to succumb.
But I know, I am no longer allowed to do that.
So what am I to do?

In any case, since this Shabbat is dedicated to feeling whatever I feel,
I'll just feel my defeat and my powerlessness,
I'll just rage and cry
as much as I can allow myself without being detected,
and do nothing about it on the exterior scene.


There is such sweet talking between mother and daughter,
outside in the living-room,
and I'm yearning to just get out of here and go home.
But I won't make any drama of what happened to me,
nor push my daughter-in-love into feelings of guilt.
I'll just feel and breathe and blink my defeat and my powerlessness
and also the pain of my ego - to be rejected by Mika,
as has happened so often with my former 9 grandchildren.
Whenever I didn't please them,
whenever I demanded something from them "for myself",
they found it easy to flush me into the sewage
often for a neverending time...
I'll feel this, I'll not blame myself, nor blame my two "girls",
I'll just feel YOU, MOTHER!
"O Du, mein Gott, ich sehne mich,
zu spueren in Dich inniglich,
mit jedem Atem, jedem Blick,
sei eins mit mir, sei Du mein Geschick!"
Ahuvi shaeli, khibabtani,
Achoti shaeli, khibabtini, kallati."

[Listen to this song in SongGame]


A more severe scene followed,
which demanded from me to experience,
that there truly were expectations from me, which I did not fulfil.
"Mika didn't feel well with you, that's why she came to me,
and that's why I managed to do less than half of the planned house-work.
"
This was, of course, the trigger
that I had attracted by my "expectations-terror".
A formidable storm of feelings
- feeling blamed without any justification,
- feeling self-pity
("I came here to be totally available for them, and look what I get back")
and with it the fear,
that perhaps it was "the time" for one of those eruptions of irrationality,
that nowadays occur less and less.
[I re-read this on Dec. 23, after having been exhibited to a horrid wave of irrationality,
which finally erupted on Dec. 19-21, after the craziness of the birthday "production"!]

Thank God, it was the time for taking Nella for a walk.
This allowed me to breathe and blink and cry
and even - cautiously - to scream
and also to pray,
that my own storm would subside
and the dreaded attack would melt away.

My prayer was heard.
I came back with a pretty bunch of flowers plucked from shrubs,
and both Efrat and Mika had obviously decided
to return to the usual warm kind of interaction.

From then on things were normal
and my main feelings
- lack of intensity and fear of expectations -
could be felt "smoothly"."purely",
without "secondary" feelings
that have to do with "I'm guilty", or "I'm humiliated".


And yet....
being afraid of expectations
- doesn't that mean to be afraid of being blamed?
Are even these "pure" feelings contaminated
by "guilt" or potential guilt-feelings?
"God" says somewhere (in RUOW or Godchannel),
that guilt is NOT a FEELing but the denials of feelings

Perhaps "lack of intensity" wouldn't be so bad by itself!
I could always do something for training my eyes
or rehearse a song, for instance,
but "guilt", because things are expected from me,
but everything is done, so I cannot fulfil these expectation,
this drives me crazy - I don't know how to cope with this!


The last hours - till I carried Mika up the stairs
with the song about the "Bibabutzimann"
were harmonious and very good.



 

 

Abraham (2004), e-mail quote on Dec. 8, 2010

"But, what if what I want and what you want are in conflict?
If I want rain, and you've just cut your alfalfa~
how does that work?"
If you will focus upon the essence of what you want
(which is a magnificent new crop)
and the other will focus upon the essence of what they want
(which is a successful alfalfa harvest, or whatever)~
and if either one of you doesn't get too involved in the details
of how you think you want your desire to play out,
then both of you can be satisfied.
The Universe has the facility
to orchestrate circumstances and events
to accommodate everyone.

 

 

 

Abraham (2004), e-mail quote on Dec.9, 2010

We would begin saying,
"I'm not ever going to get it done.
I'm an eternally expanding Being,
and I'm doing great where I am,
and I'm so eager about what's coming."
That's the essence of the vibration
that keeps adventurous things coming,
keeps you feeling always excited, stable and secure,
keeps you feeling in love with life.
All day, every day, count your blessings!
All day, every day, make your lists of things you appreciate.
And as you keep activating what is working in your life,
then more pleasing things on all subjects will flow to you.

 

Continuation of Closeups to my Past, Finetuning to my Present, Nourishment for my Living -
- which enhance and enrich my experience of
"Mika's Heaven on Earth"